Oh No She Didn’t…

Judgement. We have all made one on someone else, and we have felt the judgement of others. But why do we do this?

I am quick to judge, but even quicker to say “don’t judge me”. If we don’t like the harsh glare of others when we walk into the room followed by the comment “would you look at her“, then why are we doing the same thing to other people?

In Romans 14:10-13 it asks why we judge our brothers (or sisters) and look down upon them, especially since one day we will all stand before God and give an account of ourselves before Him? It goes on to say that because of this we should stop passing judgement on others but instead “make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way” {v. 13}.

Essentially, Paul is telling us that we should stop hindering our brothers and sisters but help them instead. Say whaattt? You want me to actually help someone? Nooooo…

Yes. that’s exactly what we should be doing. If you read in the next chapter {Romans 15:1} the first verse tells us that we should not be living to please ourselves but to help those who are weaker than us! The second verse tells us to “please his neighbor for his good, to build him up”. So you mean to tell me, that instead of laughing at the dorky kid who dropped all of their books in the hallway I should help them pick them up and give them a word of encouragement so that they might have a better day?! Stop it…you’re joking right?

No. that is exactly what we should be doing! We should build each other up instead of tearing each other down. Now, I’m not saying that we should pay for someone’s meal if we only have $5.oo to our name or lift some heavy boxes for someone if we have a bad back. Let’s not be ridiculous. But we all have the ability to lift up another person in our own unique way based on the Word of God.

Trust me, I know that it is easy to get caught up in chit chatting with your friends about that one girl who had lipstick all over her teeth. But instead of indulging in that not-so-nice conversation, correct that behavior of your friends and do something that could lift that person up instead. This is something that I have to consistently work on because we get pulled into earthly tendencies, but part of being a Christian is being able to recognize what’s right versus what’s wrong and live accordingly. I have reverted back to an old saying multiple times to stop myself from making a judgmental comment – “if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”!

If that doesn’t help you much, then remember this verse the next time you want to pass judgement: “reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing” {Proverbs 12:18}. Who wouldn’t want to heal with their words? I know that if I am having a bad day and someone says something nice to me or texts me an inspirational quote, my whole demeanor can change! No one likes to be kicked while they are down!

So to help jump start this movement of leaving judgment behind and building up our brothers and sisters, I have come up with a list of 5 things you could do to encourage someone else:

  1. Pass out inspirational quotes or bible verses to people you see
  2. Pay it forward at a coffee shop by paying for someone else’s coffee
  3. Give a compliment to someone about their outfit
  4. Smile! (it’s contagious)
  5. Let someone know that you are keeping them in your prayers

I hope that we can all take something from this post and be a light unto others! Let me know in the comments some of your favorite ways to encourage those around you…

Until next time,




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