I’ll admit..when things aren’t going the way that I had planned or life feels as if it is falling apart, I shut down. Instead of automatically reaching out to my Heavenly Father, I give into the temptation of feeling sorry for myself.
“It’s all messed up”, “I will never get it right”, “I suck”, etc…
Phrases that leave my mouth a little to frequently. But it gets worse. Not only do I shut down and feel sorry for myself, but I shut out those who are trying to help me realize that everything will be okay.
When I get into the deep, deep trenches of my own self-pity, this is when I begin to believe the lies of satan. He tells me that I didn’t deserve to get that job, that I am unworthy of happiness, that my friends are better off without me. I start to believe him and these lies start playing in a loop in my head. Repeating over and over until I have successfully avoided everyone trying to tell me otherwise.
It’s funny how one thing going wrong can spur a week of “nothing ever goes my way”. Your mind becomes so focused on what is wrong that you can no longer see what is right. Constantly complaining about what you don’t have instead of looking at what you do have (see my previous post here). My mindset becomes so distorted that I start blaming myself for things that I have zero control over!
Do you find yourself feeling this way? Like nothing ever works out in your favor? Do you believe the lies that satan is telling you? If you are, then stop. I know it’s easier said than done, but we have to stop feeling sorry for ourselves. What good has it done us? I can tell you personally, it has only made my situations worse.
If you start to feel sorry for yourself, ask yourself “was this something I had control over?”. Last week I had an exam for one of my classes that I felt I had truly prepared myself for and was confident that it would be a cake walk. Went into class, got the exam and instantly started to beat myself up because I had already identified about 5 questions that I was unsure of. I tried to calm down my anxiety so that I could focus on the exam and I did the best that I could with the knowledge that I had. I did the BEST that I could.
It’s as simple as that, if you do all that you can in your power and you give whatever situation it is your absolute best, then stop believing the lies telling you that you didn’t! When I pity myself, I fail to stop and simply talk to God about what it is that I am going through. He wants to hear from us! He wants us to call on Him! But He also wants us to stop pushing away those who are trying to help us.
NEWS FLASH: God uses those who are close to us to help encourage us! So instead of pushing away that friend who is trying to tell you that it will be okay and they are proud of you for the hard work that you did put in, listen to what they have to say and let them pray for you! You will feel so much better doing this instead of feeling sorry for yourself!
But also know that I am praying for you, that you may be able to change your mindset and kick the lies of satan to the curb! I know it isn’t easy, and this something that I struggle with too but it is nice to know that you have someone you can struggle with. Know that we can overcome these feelings of sorrow and self pity, and we will come out even stronger!
I challenge you, if you find yourself in a self-pity party, stop for a moment and be thankful for what has worked out in your favor, and realize what you do have is far greater than what you don’t.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 “Give thanks in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus”
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