Wow. Wow. Wow.
On one hand I’m saying “we’ve only been married for 6 months…seriously??” but on the other hand I’m like “how have we been married 6 months already?!”..
It feels like it was just yesterday that we were packing up and headed to Florida for the most memorable trip of our lives, and now we are here.. 6 months in and growing in our marriage every single day.
I was actually getting kind of emotional going through all of our photos (for like the 100th time) trying to figure out which images I wanted to use for this post. Gahhhh.. okay, enough of that.. Let’s get to the real reason why we are all here: the top 4 lessons that marriage has taught me so far..
Okay, first let me start off by saying I could easily list more than 4 things BUT for the sake of all our attention spans.. 🙂 God has blessed me tremendously with this man I now call my husband. Now don’t get me wrong.. we have our moments where I give him that ‘you are getting on my absolute last nerve’ look and so does he. But the amount of growth we have experienced thus far is truly mind blowing and I have to give God all the glory! So here we go..
- Marriage isn’t easy, but when you put in the work it can be so much fun!
Okay so, you’re probably like what? marriage isn’t easy? you don’t just fall into a routine and BOOM just like that you’re doing the whole married life thing? ya girl.. I was just as shocked as you to find out that NAH. IT AIN’T LIKE THAT. You actually have to work at figuring out how you do things as a unit, you have to find a routine that works for you, and most importantly you have to remember that you are living with someone who is not used to having the toilet seat down! (seriously babe.. I’m tired of falling in the toilet when I get up to pee in the middle of the night..).. Now this isn’t something that once you figure out, then it’s done.. You have to work at your marriage EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Some days are easy and you & bae are just flowing together.. and then there are some days where you need to spend a little extra time with Jesus in the morning because home boy is gonna test your patience and you need to extend some grace.. (or the other way around because let’s face it y’all.. I can be challenging – admitting is the first step to recovery AMEN).
2. You don’t have to be under each other 24/7..
Okay hear me out on this one.. when one thinks marriage, you probably think ‘ohmygosh.. we are gonna spend every waking hour with each other and it’s going to be frickin’ amazing’.. NO, there will be an occasional “get out my face boo” moment (see lesson 1 about spending extra time with Jesus – it’s real y’all). It is truly okay to spend some time alone.. even if you are in the same house! There are plenty of times – like right now as I am writing this, for example – that we are in the same house but are spending some quiet time apart. As much as you are now one with each other, you also need time to yourself for reflection, time with Jesus, watching Grey’s Anatomy, so on and so forth. I felt really awkward about this at first but then I came to realize that it’s actually OK.
3. Just because you are married doesn’t mean you should stop dating..
Ladies.. we all know that we love to dress up and look cute, and go out on an occasional date.. Don’t let this stop just because you are married. Now don’t get me wrong, I love me a good movie night in where we can just pile up on the couch and watch movies because #cuddles but you shouldn’t neglect going out on dates. When we first got married, we stayed in ALL THE TIME. It was great! and then I started to miss putting on real clothes on the weekend and actually going out to do things. So keep dating! Keep doing your hair and makeup, and putting on that cute outfit he likes so much!
and finally.. the most important lesson of all..
4. Keep God at the center of it all..
This might seem like a no-brainer, but it can easily slip out of your grasp if you aren’t careful. With all the excitement of marriage, moving into your first home or apartment, trying to find your routine, and so on.. you can easily let God slip to the wayside.. Enjoy every minute of your marital blessing, but don’t forget that it’s just that – a blessing. Don’t forget to give God thanks every day for the blessing of your spouse and marriage. Don’t neglect spending time with God and ask Him for wisdom in your marriage. It can be so easy to put the things of God off “until later” or “when we get back from the store” but make it a priority because without God at the center, it is so hard to be aligned in your marriage.
I love being able to share a piece of my heart with you all and I hope it helped you in some way! It feels so good to be back and I’m super excited for all the fun things that I have planned to share with y’all so stay tuned 🙂
Until next time,